Recently someone asked, “Why is it so difficult to follow my gut?” No other information was provided with the question, and here’s what I answered.
Your “gut” is actually the wrong place to look for intuition, contrary to popular belief. Your gut will tell you things like, “I’m scared.” That’s good information, and important to know. But it’s not the same as intuition, or inner knowing, which is what I suspect you’re really asking about.
Where you want to be looking for guidance is your heart, and more specifically, your higher heart. That’s the place where you can begin to know yourself and trust yourself in a deeper way. It’s a natural part of you that has all the information you need, or can lead you to whatever you need to know.
However, it’s not easy for us to follow our heart, because too often we are stuck in our head. Fear, anger, and sadness — our emotional baggage — keeps us stuck there. It’s important to work on letting go of all that, especially fear, in order to get in line with who we really are. In other words, bypass the intellect circus and drama, and get to know our true self.
To answer your question more directly, it’s so hard to follow your “gut,” or your inner knowing, because you are afraid of the consequences. Afraid of committing to certain actions, and taking responsibility for your actions. That’s not unusual. But the way to overcome fear is to do the thing you know you want to do but are afraid to do — and learn from the result. That way, you gradually learn to trust yourself, and follow your gut.
A good way to do that is to ask for higher support. Support from your own soul, your guides, angels, and God, or whatever God is to you. Ask, in your heart, to be shown what you need to know, and for the courage to follow the guidance you receive. Practice listening, writing about, and following that guidance. It takes time, practice, and courage. You can master this.
That was my best effort at answering this somewhat open ended question.
By the way, do you know the question most asked of Psychics? I learned about this when I was doing some background research for my program, Intuition Retreat, Develop Your Intuitive & Psychic Ability. Some time ago, when I began doing intuitive counseling, I would get calls from people who were looking for a psychic. I don’t operate as a psychic, but my work includes some elements of that. The question I got, and the question psychics most often get, is “Is my boyfriend cheating on me.” So since I don’t operate as a psychic, when I got asked this question, my answer wasn’t the one people expected. Here’s what I would say to the people, usually young women, asking this.
If you suspect your boyfriend is cheating, your relationship is already unhealthy. There’s a lack of trust, and whether he’s cheating or not, that lack of trust is eventually going to undermine your relationship.
Have a frank discussion with your boyfriend and make sure you’re both in agreement that your relationship is exclusive. Then be honest, and tell him about your suspicions, and see how he responds. If you don’t feel completely comfortable and re-assured, it’s probably time to take a break from that relationship.
No psychic is 100% accurate, and most are far less. So putting these kinds of important questions to a psychic is always risky. You’ll never really know for sure whether they are right, so you’ll still be uncertain. Instead, it’s best to use your own intuition, find out what you can on your own, and ask your partner directly.
If you’re unsure about your relationship, or want to get ready for a new one, you might appreciate my online course, Attracting A Great Relationship. You can find that program, along with Intuition Retreat, and all of my work, at The Healing Waterfall dot com. Thanks for listening!